Category Archives: Parenting

thoughts and comments based on my experience as a parent

Leaving it all on the field

Perhaps it’s just because I’m getting older, but it seems I find myself thinking (or even worrying) about what kind of legacy I’ll leave when I’m gone.

That sounds morbid right? While I try to be positive as much as possible, I can’t help but have thoughts of impending doom/demise. I want to live a long and full life (my son hopes I’ll live to be 500 years old), but that doesn’t stop me from wondering about what happens if I don’t.

I used to love playing sports (I’m way too out of shape and out of practice to be much good these days) and back then I used to live by the old saying “leave everything on the field”. The idea that you want to give it your all or “play every game as if it were your last”. That’s actually not too difficult to do with sports, but applying that principle to life isn’t so easy.

Life has a way of making everything blur together. We get so wrapped up in the rat race and lose focus from what is most important. The days come and go, people come and go, and we carry on. When our turn is up, all that’s left is the impression we made on those who knew us.

If today was my last…

I’d want my kids to know that they are the most amazing thing to ever happen to me, that they are beautiful and intelligent and special in more ways than I can express in words, that I’m proud of them and believe in them, and that I love them with all of my being. I’d want them to know that I’m sorry I couldn’t be the invulnerable superhero they imagined me to be, that I want them to be brave and live life without fear and full of love, and to always stick together.

I’d want my wife to know that I am thankful every day that she agreed to be my bride, that she is beautiful and wonderful in every way, ┬áthat she is the strongest person I know, and that I love her more than she knows.

I’d want my family and friends to know that they are all awesome and that I’ve enjoyed knowing them and being a part of their lives.

There’s a lot more that I’d like to say, but no time (funny isn’t it?), so for now I’ll sign off by saying that if you’re reading this: I appreciate you and I hope you have an awesome day. Be good to one another. Let people know you love them. Be bold, be brave, be awesome!

I can’t wait to see my wife and kids again so I can hug them and tell them how much they mean to me.

Happy Fathers Day

Today is fathers day and so far this has been a great one for me. I got to spend some time by myself which is something I don’t get very often. I spent most of my free time just sitting in my minivan thinking…

It’s been quite an interesting journey so far, being a father… I am blessed to have a great wife and two amazing kids. I am also thankful for my family, extended family, and friends who have helped support me/us in one way or another over the years.

I think that of ask the experiences in my life so far, being a father has changed me the most. By the time my kids are my age I imagine I will have changed so much that I could write a book about it, but who would want to read it?

One of the main changes that comes to mind is that I used to never hesitate to share my opinion, but now I tend to keep things to myself. For example, there are many things I’d like to say right now, but I am going to refrain from doing so for now. Why is that the case? Because i’m still growing and changing and in time I will be wiser than I am now which will probably change my opinion again and I will be left thinning of how silly I was to think and say such a foolish thing.

What am I blathering about?

Well, basically i’m trying to say that I hope my son and daughter learn quicker than I did to listen to their parents and not be so darn insistent on doing everything the hard way just because they can…

We all could stand to learn valuable lessons from our elders, if only we would just shut up and listen long enough to learn from their mistakes and benefit from their successes…